Losing a pet is like losing a member of the family but many times it is even harder because some people around you think that it’s not that big of a deal.
I have lost many pets over the years and the responses never seem to change “It’s only a cat,” or “oh come on, it’s not like it was a human being.” IT!!!??? NOT EVEN A HUMAN BEING!!!???
Not to you maybe, but to me it’s like losing a child. And the scenario seems always to be the same as well… the fear, the quick trip to the emergency vet clinging to a little ball of fur and telling him/her that you love them and everything will be fine. The tests and then the doctor saying “it doesn’t look good… ” The tears come next and the decision to say goodbye as you hold your ball of fluff for the last time.And then…
The quiet ride home… then the television set goes on, a cup of coffee poured and some act like it never happened. “Hey hon, that movie we wanted to see is on… make some popcorn.” POPCORN!!!???
No talk of funeral arrangements, no calling the boss to say you won’t be in tomorrow because there’s a death in the family… just popcorn.
And that’s supposed to be the end of it… the end of so many years of waking up to the nose in your face and a soft purr. The end of racing to the food dish and following you wherever you go with it.The end of seeing that pair of eyes telling you silently “I love you.”
So what do you do? Grieve! It doesn’t matter what anyone else says. This is YOUR personal journey, so cry, take a day (or two) off, have a makeshift service of your own, do whatever it takes to make you feel better. Take the popcorn bowl and dump it over that movie watcher’s head if you like!
It is your right to grieve. It is your right to feel the way you want to feel. It is not childish, or stupid.Find a pet bereavement group, they work wonders and they understand what you are going through.Talk to a friend who understands and stay away from people that tell you things that hurt you. They are not right, they are just voicing an opinion that frankly they should keep to themselves at this point.
It is your right to feel. It is your right to remember.